Is stretching a word in your vocabulary?

Sometimes life shows you a lesson in different ways; this time, life showed me this one in my health and career at the same time. Recently prescribed physical therapy (PT) to tackle some ongoing pain issues I have been having, and at this point, I was open to trying any new options that could help me. The night before, I was a little apprehensive, wondering how PT would help me with my chronic pain issues; how could the two be related?

On the first day of PT, I went in willing and open to see how this could help me and see what exciting technology the PT therapist would be using. I quickly discovered that she would be using me. She showed me simple ways to start to bend my body to help stretch the muscles, which might have been so unused, potentially sitting at home at my desk working for the past two years that they tighten up, causing pain.

I could start to feel slight results from day 1. These results encouraged me that this could be something to help me with my pain and demonstrated to me that I had a LOT more flexibility than I ever thought I had. A couple of weeks in, my wife says that she has never seen me as flexible in the 10+ years she has known me.

This adventure into stretching leads me back to John Maxwell’s book “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” and the law of the rubber band. He mentions that “Growth stops when you lose the tension between where you are and where you could be” and that life begins at the end of our comfort zone, and we get there by stretching.

Your greatest gift to yourself is your potential; are you developing it? I have always been one for the challenge looking for the next best challenge to take in my career or learning new technology to keep up with the changes. However, there have been times when I feel like I have been languishing, not getting any better, not getting any worse, just being there, and those have sometimes been the most challenging times. To some, it looks like you are doing great, but inside you feel like you are not stretching. One of my coaches helped me pivot my perspective on what I was focusing on and looking for ways to stretch, which I had been neglecting myself because I didn’t see the challenge. “Find the hard work that no one else is doing, and just do it… don’t sit and wait to be asked for it… don’t just pass up the results, ask for a seat at the table” stretch the role that you are already in and you have let go while looking outside.

Stretching is a critical tool in your arsenal to get the results you want, whether in your health or your career. Have you been using it?

Where have you been stretched in your career?

Have there been times where you recognize that you have not stretched yourself? Why?

Abraham Maslow stated, “If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy the rest of your life.”

Where do you need to be stretched so you can grow to the next level?

If you have just settled and need help stretching, I can help you there.

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Founder/Coach — I am a cybersecurity professional, career coach, podcaster, adjunct professor, author, dad, and so much more.

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